Get To It!
One of the things I love about working with children is the ability to revisit important lessons I either missed as a kid, or learned growing up but have forgotten along the way. Going back to the basics of simplicity, kindness, playfulness, and curiosity always refreshes me and makes me feel young, like a kid again! And out of all these lessons, one in particular I keep coming back to is saying “get to” instead of “have to.” Such a small change in vocabulary can have a big impact for you and your kids.
At yogees we always say we get to do things, like we get to do a yoga pose, or we get to breathe, instead of saying we have to. It’s a subtle way to remind the kids to be grateful for what our bodies can do. We are strong and capable, each in our own way, and we get to try lots of poses and practices to stretch ourselves to new limits, both figuratively and literally.
I truly love my job, but it’s still work, so during particularly busy times like the holiday season, it can get stressful. I recently found myself thinking, “Ugh, I have to plan another class today.” Thanks to my yogees training, however, I quickly caught myself and rephrased it to, “I get to plan a class today.” “Having to” work reinforces my exhaustion and frustration. “Getting to” work reinforces the fact that I have a job I love, that pays my bills, and that also helps others. Win-win-win!
Throughout the day, remind your kids and yourself of all the gratitude behind “getting to” do things. Getting to clean the house means we have a place to sleep and a roof over our heads, which many don’t. Getting to do laundry means we have clothes to wear to keep us warm in the winter. Getting to wash dishes means we have enough to eat. Getting to clean up after the pets means we have sweet furry companions to make us smile. Getting to stand in long lines for holiday gifts means we have money to buy presents and loved ones to give them to.
This season, as you find yourself “having to” add one more thing to your to do list, take a moment and try out “get to” instead. Just one simple change in your language can create a huge shift in your attitude, and your life. Now go get to it!